Knight Law Firm | April 8, 2025 | Divorce
Going through a divorce is always a challenging experience, but it can be even more difficult if your spouse is a narcissist. Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental illness that leads someone to have an unnaturally and unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They have difficulty accepting others’ feelings and may struggle with the idea of a divorce.
If you’re getting ready to divorce a narcissist, knowing what to expect from the process can make a difference. Learn more about how to help yourself through this difficult time.
Tips For Divorcing A Narcissist
One of the first things to remember when considering how to divorce a narcissist is that much of the advice you’ll get from friends or others who’ve gone through this type of separation won’t help. That’s because your spouse likely won’t want to compromise in any way.
They won’t want to admit to mistakes or any wrongdoings, either, so don’t get into arguments, and don’t defend yourself against their accusations. Allow your attorney to handle as much of the communications between the two of you as possible.
You’ll also need to establish and maintain boundaries throughout the divorce. Remember, your spouse thinks they are the center of attention, so immediately responding to texts or emails only encourages them. Let your lawyer speak for you when appropriate, and defer to any existing court orders regarding issues like child custody or spousal support.
As difficult as it is, try not to take what your spouse says to heart. Narcissists are excellent at projecting their own traits onto others. Do your best to ignore their rants and remain steadfast by reminding yourself why you’re seeking a divorce.
Tools To Handle A Narcissist And Divorce
As soon as you decide to divorce your spouse, start documenting everything. Many narcissists think nothing of lying, so keeping a record of conversations can support any claims you make. When possible, communicate via email or text so everything is in writing.
Stick to the facts. Whenever your spouse asks you a question or starts a conversation as you go through the divorce, remember that they may be trying to goad you into a fight. It’s not easy, but responding only with factual information and no emotions can be the most effective way of dealing with a narcissist.
Hire an attorney who has dealt with these types of contentious divorces before. When you meet your attorney for the first time, ensure they understand the type of person your spouse is. You need an attorney who won’t take every piece of bait that your spouse dangles in front of them; otherwise, you could spend years in court.
Have Clear Expectations
When going through a divorce with a narcissist, know from the start that the process won’t be easy. If you have children, you can be certain your spouse will use them against you. They might try to intimidate you and create drama to get attention. You could experience everything from cyberbullying to physical threats, and you likely already know they’ll blame you for everything.
Many narcissists won’t engage in conflict resolution in good faith, so it may not be worth your time to try mediation. In most instances, a narcissist will try to steamroll you into accepting everything they suggest.
Hire Aggressive And Experienced Representation
As you begin divorce proceedings, ensure you have an experienced attorney by your side who will be aggressive when necessary and won’t give in to your spouse’s need for constant conflict. With a lawyer who knows how to address narcissists, your divorce can be more manageable.
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